I am 29! I turned 29 this week and I am beyond happy. This is such an exciting time for me. Not just because it was my birthday but because this year has given me so much. It gave me clarity, purpose, serenity, and most importantly, happiness. These past 29 years have taught me so much. This has been the year to put my lessons into action. I have grown so much and many blessings have been placed in my path. I am grateful for all of it, the blessings and the lessons. I would like to share some of those lessons with you.
1. Your everyday talk adds up:
Stop talking to yourself like you are the enemy. Be kind. The number one thing that helped boost my confidence was telling myself I was beautiful. I said it often and I said out loud.
2. Forgiveness is key:
Holding anger and resentment is not hurting the person that hurt you. It’s only hurting yourself. Forgive and let go. It’s not for them, it’s for you.
3. Positive thinking will change your life:
Positive thinking may seem like foo foo talk but focusing on possibilities is more powerful than focusing on what could go wrong. Don’t forget that.
4. Constantly look for clarity:
There was a point in my life when I felt like I was going nowhere, I felt lost. The more lost I felt, the less willing I was to face my reality and take action. Seeking clarity in what I wanted and needed out of life was what made taking control of my life so much more easier. Constantly ask yourself what you want out of life and how you will get it done.
5. The power of your friends:
They say you are the flection of the closest people to you. Your closest friends can either feed energy to your dream or doubt. I have seen the results of both and trust me, choose your friends carefully.
6. Being a parent doesn’t mean you give up your dreams:
After I had my children certain people wanted me to have the desire to stay at home and just focus on raising my children. I did, and I was miserable. It wasn’t until I went back to work and filled my life with purpose that I felt like a good mother for giving my children a good example of following their dreams. Not to mention I felt alive again.
7. Balance doesn’t mean spending equal amounts of hours on everything:
Oh balance! When we think balance we can sometimes picture us having to juggle five balls at once. One wrong move and all goes to hell. However, I see balance as an overall satisfaction. For example, you may not spend as much time with your family as you would hope to, but when you do are you making the best of it? The same for work and fun. It’s not about spending equal amounts of time in each area. It is about being satisfied in all the areas. Some areas will need more of your time others may need less.
8. There is a difference between being busy and being productive:
Doing a million pointless tasks in a day is not the same as doing a few that are strategically going to set you up for success.
9. Do things even when scared:
There is a quote that I love that says, ” Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” Remember that fear only exists in our minds.
10. Always look forward to something:
We all look forward to a nice vacation. The problem with that being the only thing you look forward to in the year is that the rest of the year you dread going about your day. Try to look forward to things in the middle of the week no matter if small. This will boost your mood and performance.
11. Procrastination is a killer of all dreams:
Procrastination is a form of stress relief when we are overwhelmed. However, when we procrastinate we feel guilt. Holding off on taking action doesn’t allow you to enjoy your time. So just do what needs to be done then enjoy your free time, guilt free.
12. Everything happens for a reason:
There is always a blessing or a lesson in everything. If it wasn’t a blessing ask yourself , “what was the lesson? “
13. People only do what you allow them:
You educate people on how to treat you. You do not come with a manual and people don’t read minds. Voice when you are not okay with something. Set boundaries and consequences when they are crossed. It is the only way to have healthy relationships.
14. Kids learn with actions not words:
You want your kids to act a certain way, you must set the example. You can’t say one thing and do another. That will only confuse your child and your words with time lose value.
15. In a time of overload information, ignorance is a choice:
” I don’t know how to do this,” is no longer an excuse to not follow your dreams. You want to do something? Research how you can get it done.
16. Be open to constructive criticism:
You can always learn from others. If you truly want to be successful you must grow. Don’t ever feel you are too good for constructive criticism. When I write blogs and I have my sister/editor review them, she comes back with at least seven changes and questions. You know what I do? I go back, review, and thank her! Let me say that again, I thank her! You need feedback to get better.
17. Health is more than body:
Let’s start by realizing that your skin is also part of your body. When you are not healthy your skin is the first place you will see it. Also, mental health is very important in your overall health.
18. Don’t apologize for wanting more:
If you have big dreams many times people will not understand. It is okay! Continue on, don’t apologize for having ambitions.
19. Don’t compare your beginning with someone else’s middle:
We live in the social media era where comparison is constant. Be patient with your process and your growth. It is very unproductive to compare your beginning with someone else’s middle.
20. You are not special but you were created to do special things:
Okay, hear me out on this one. Many times when we see someone that is successful we think ,” man they must have something special! They must have been created differently than the rest!” The truth is that they are not special. They are not different from you. They just decided to pursue their purpose, that thing that fills them with energy.
I do believe we all have a story to share with the world. We are all meant to connect with different people. Which is why you have so many sharing the same message but with different stories. And their is an audience for each of them. Their story will connect with different people.
21. What you have means nothing, how you feel about yourself means everything:
Okay let me tell you a little story, when I was younger I use to dance. My family wasn’t doing well financially but I was happy. There was this instance that I will never forget. I was on stage and I had shoes that had a hole at the bottom, my clothes were hand me down yet I had all eyes on me. People clapped, cheered, and took pictures as if I was someone big. It didn’t matter what I lacked, what mattered is that feeling of happiness I could transmit to people. Don’t forget that.
22. Talent is overrated, it’s all about persistence:
Talent will only take you so far. It is persistence that will take you all the way. Stop relying solely on your talent.
23. Honor and fall in love with the struggle:
When you have a dream you can sometimes think about how it would feel to be there. You get so excited! However, when you begin and see it is not easy you give up. You must think about the struggle and say yes! I am willing to go through that! And when you are actually on the grind and are struggling you must remind yourself that you signed up for this! That this is what is needed to get to the promised land.
24. Success doesn’t happen from one to another:
Be patient! Success does not happen from one day to another. Be persistent in your actions and patient in the result.
25. It doesn’t matter if you start small just start:
There is a quote that says ” you are not scared to start your dream, you are embarrassed to be seen starting small” Don’t be afraid to be seen small. Everything must have a beginning. In the contrary not starting results to nothing.
26. Speak your truth you never know who you are going to touch:
Going back to point 20. There is an audience for each story. Tell yours, you may change someone’s life!
27. Listen more than you speak
We have two ears and one mouth. That is for a reason. Those that listen can learn. Those that speak more only hear their madness over and over again.
28. Saving money for emergencies is a must:
I had to learn this the hard way. Save! You don’t want life to surprise you with an emergency and take you out. You should at least have $1,000 as an emergency fund.
29. Believe in yourself and your world will change!
Believe in yourself! If you don’t, why should others?! Remember, you can do this!
I truly hope that you take these lessons and you get some benefits from them. I hope that this upcoming year gives you the push to really pursue your dreams and goals. This year I know will be the year that you change your life.
Written by: Lupita G.